We always have a choice. Sometimes, it may not seem as if this is the case, but we really do. We do not need to feel trapped in an unhappy job or relationship. We can make that decision to take control of our lives, but it takes strength and a willingness to trust that all will be well in the end.
There have been moments in my life where I too have felt that there is no way out, but thankfully, that deep unhappiness has given me the push and the power to make the necessary changes.
There is always a way out and once you make that move, there will be no turning back.
You will find no solutions in complaining or by adding more negative energy to the problem. It will only be a temporary release. The more we continue to live in this situation, the more our body and mind can deteriorate. An unhappy mind, can lead to an unhealthy body.
I went through two unhappy jobs in a space of six and a half years. Most of my mornings were spent dragging myself to work. I didn’t want to face the day, but now I look back and wonder, why I put myself through that ordeal for so long. I should have left after the very first week!
The same happens with relationships. From the moment we know that he/she isn’t the right person, we should leave. But many of us aren’t willing to take that step. We lie to ourselves and keep thinking that it will get better. But even as time passes and things don’t change, we still hang on. Why? Is it because we don’t want to face the pain of a break up? Is it because of what other people will think? There could be many reasons, but none of them are good enough. None of them are worth the pain and the suffering.
It is at this point, that you need to realise that you have a choice. You can take control of your life and when you make that decision, you will gain a strength you never knew existed. You will see that light at the end of the tunnel and your life and happiness will come back to you.
You don’t need to rush or force anything. The answers will come in time. So relax your mind and enjoy life to the best of your ability while you are in this situation. You may be presented with an exciting job opportunity that helps you move on, or you might find the inner strength to end that relationship. When the time comes, don’t be scared of the change. Embrace it and feel excited. This is your chance to be happy again!
Every time, I have moved on from an unhappy situation, I have gone onto better things. But one thing that I have learnt is that while that chapter is closing, you must release and really let go of the past.
You mustn’t drag the old fear or resentment into your new situation, or it will create more of the same again in your life. You have to make a clean break and clear your consciousness.
Do your best to forgive and let go. Try your hardest to trust that you’re now entering a better and brighter chapter in your life. Do this, and you will find that the next job or relationship you walk into will be heaps better than the last.
If you are reading this and are going through a tough situation, I hope that things will improve and that you will find peace and happiness, soon.
Always remember that you did not come into this world to live a life of unhappiness or regret. You have the choice now, to live a life of happiness, freedom, and joy. So choose those things for yourself!